Coping with Low Self Esteem
IBS is not a condition to shout about. It is not a condition that makes you feel good about yourself. Low self esteem can be a real problem for many IBS sufferers.
Having a confident outlook will undoubtedly be useful, however it is very difficult to simply manufacture confidence. Low self esteem can also be closely allied to feelings of anxiety and stress.
The following is a basic guide from ‘Wiki How’ which gives an outline of ways in which to deal with low self esteem. It is vital that those who struggle with this issue seek help.
Low self esteem, with IBS is hard, low self esteem in general can take great chunks out of your life. In particular it will rob you of what you could have been. It is an issue that needs to be challenged.
Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health.
Tips to help deal with Low Self Esteem
1 Develop a sense of awareness. Low self esteem comes from being treated as if how we feel and what we need from life does not matter. We then internalize this treatment, and begin to treat ourselves as a nobody. The vicious circle goes on.
2 Draw on our innate intuition to help others, and use this to help ourselves. For example, if a child was being treated badly and suffering, we would see that and want to intervene. If our friend was being abused, we could see that and advise them to stop accepting that behavior. The trick is to turn that awareness of others' pain into awareness of ourselves, and to become our own best friend.
3 Find the tiniest thing you can change and change it. This is by far the hardest step, but it will get easier with practice. For example, if someone constantly borrows your pencil without asking, in the past you may have dismissed your inner feelings of annoyance. Now, we need to tune into them instead. And act on them; it may be as simple as saying - "you know what, it annoys me when you just take my pencil". Anything that says how we really feel helps.
4 In every situation where you feel bad, ask yourself the question - what would a best friend say I should do? Then go on - be your own best friend.
Sometimes, when we are so low, we need outside help. A good counselor who treats us well can help. By being valued and heard, we begin to value and heed our own needs.